Are you starving for community? Because I am. I am aching for a world where we live authentically, share openly, pray readily, love selflessly, stop willingly, listen patiently. I don’t think I am alone. As I spend my days leading, loving and listening to women I have come to the realization that many women are struggling through life, barely surviving, alone. Somewhere in the machine of modern day America and modern day American Christianity the modern woman: nurturer, comforter, care giver, house cleaner, schedule organizer, chauffer, encourager, money maker, lover and friend has fallen through the cracks. We have excellent programs for children, our youth programs are being refined, small groups are exploding but what about the women? The moms, the grandma’s, the widows, the singles? Where do they fit in? How do they serve? Who sees and loves and prayers for and encourages them?
I happen to know some great lady leaders who pour themselves out day in and day out for the females of our society and I applaud them. Some of them are you who are reading and I want you to know today that your sacrifice, love and service are needed, craved, welcomed and making a difference. The way you mentor, encourage, pray for and step into lives affects others. Your love and energy are not ever wasted. You are a hero, often daily, to another female.
In a world where we are quicker to nit pick, criticize and fight over issues like working or staying home, homeschooling or not, sugar or no sugar, breastfeeding or bottle, single or married, and I could go on, we are creating a culture of lone women warriors. Defensive, wounded, battling, striving to stay alive.
Is it crazy to you, or just to me, that the very nature of a woman is to love and nurture and yet so often we choose to bare our claws and our teeth to each other in attack. This attitude that prevails over Facebook, in Bible Studies, on blogs, in churches has created the need for the servant leader woman to stand up now more than ever.
Because of our culture, I think the way we minister, or meet the needs of this modern day Woman has to be a bit different than before. We still need Bible studies, events and conferences – but even more we need the one on one day to day tangible help. The mom who needs a bag of groceries, or someone to do her dishes or watch her kids so she can have a date with her husband. The woman whose mother lives too far away or the relationship isn’t good needs someone older to step in and take that support role. The single beauty who feel her life is less than because it lacks a sexual relationship needs the encouragement that the plan is bigger and her role vital. The grandmother or widow who is lonely and hibernates needs a companion and joy and young love in the form of chubby arms and sticky kisses.
Ministry happens at church and in Bible studies and at conferences but it starts in homes doing dishes, watching children, giving hugs, listening ears, encouraging words, prayer.
So to the women servant leaders – I applaud you. The way you bend yourself low and give. The way you rise above the cat fights and choose to love and encourage women where they are at. The way you pray and love and speak truth. Do not stop. This is the ministry we have been given. The calling on our lives. To love and love well. To see and see well. And the action that you take, I pray, will be a catalyst, the start to a movement of women seeing, loving, encouraging, supporting, helping. Because we need each other and we were never meant to do it alone.
Stephanie Page is a wife to one very supportive man and mom to three beautiful girls. With a background in foreign and local missions, youth and women’s ministry her heart is to see people living their lives in the freedom purchased for them on the cross. She spends her time as a speaker, writer, bible study leader, human trafficking advocate and conference planner. She is the author of two books, “It Started with a Blog” & “Preparing for Christmas”. She is also co-founder of Allied Women. Her favorite things are hanging out and serving with husband Chris, speaking on Freedom and snuggling with her girls. You can find her blogging at www.simplyfaith.us and www.storiescafe.org as well as on Facebook & Twitter.